If you think typical tweens and teens are most fearful of being kidnapped or
physically harmed, then think again. Fear of being teased, judged and betrayed
are among their top concerns, according to a new study from the Girl Scout
Research Institute (GSRI), conducted with Harris Interactive, Inc. The study,
titled Feeling Safe: What Girls Say, examines feelings and perceptions
about safety of 2,341 Girl Scouts and non-Girl Scouts ages 8-17.
"Findings in this study reveal that girls are equally concerned about their
emotional and physical safety, and threats to feelings of safety negatively
impact the quality of a girl's life," said Stephanie Smetana, Executive Director
of Girl Scouts of Santiam Council. "As the leader on issues of relevance to
girls, our goal is to bring attention to their concerns in the Albany community
and empower girls and adults in their lives to develop effective coping
methods."
Girls Fears Defined: While girls in the study listed kidnappers,
terrorists, theft, being left alone, gang violence and school shootings among
those things that make them feel physically unsafe, emotional safety is of top
concern in their everyday lives:
Most girls in the study define safety through their relationships with
others. Girls say they feel safest when they are with people they love, with
mothers and fathers topping the list. However, as teens grow older their trust
in adults tends to diminish. The study reveals that almost one-quarter of teens
have fewer than three adults they can go to if they are in trouble or need help.
"When you are a teenager, you're not so sure of yourself and you don't
have self-esteem, and your parents [just] say get over it." - Age 16
More than one-third of teens worry about finding peers to talk to and trust,
while 38 percent of tween and teen girls worry about their emotional safety when
they are with their peers.
"A lot of people tease. Rather than physical bullying, there's a lot of
emotional bullying, like judging, [and] I don't like that." - Age 15
When asked what worries them most in their every day lives - 32 percent of
girls said they fear being teased.
"A broken arm can heal, but what about a broken heart? Words can hurt a
lot." - Age 12
Although adults may think teens don’t consider the consequences of risky
behavior, the study's findings reveal that teen girls feel vulnerable in
situations where drugs and alcohol are involved.
"The people around me were using drugs and alcohol and I felt very
uncomfortable and unsafe." - Age 12
The Domino Effect of Feeling Unsafe:
"A key finding reveals that
girls' relationships make them feel safe, or not, in a given space or
situation," said Judy Schoenberg, Ed.M., lead researcher for Feeling Safe.
What Girls Say. "Consequently, girls' overall well-being is diminished when
they lack positive relationships, and they may not feel safe."
Feeling safe is associated with the following:
- 32 percent of girls who feel emotionally unsafe feel they can do anything
if they try (compared to 59 percent who feel safe).
- 31 percent of girls who feel unsafe have trouble paying attention in
school (compared to 6 percent who feel safe).
- 38 percent of girls who feel emotionally unsafe often feel sad (compared
to 5 percent who feel safe).
- 22 percent of girls who feel emotionally unsafe often feel that they have
no one to talk to (compared to 4 percent who feel safe).
- 38 percent of girls who feel emotionally unsafe worry about finding adults
to talk to and trust (compared to 17 percent who feel safe).
What Adults Need to Know:
Findings note that girls who generally feel
unsafe internalize their concerns by crying, sleeping and eating more or less
than girls who feel safe. With help from adults, girls need to develop
additional strategies to deal with their feelings of unsafe. Adults may
consider partnering with girls to address their safety issues, initiating
conversations about safety and understanding the seriousness of their emotional
distress.
For additional information on Feeling Safe: What Girls Say and for
tips on how to help girls cope with feeling
unsafe.
Girl Scouts of the USA is the world's preeminent organization for girls, with
a membership of more than 3.6 million girls and adults. Now in its 92nd
year, Girl Scouting continues to help cultivate values, social consciousness and
self-esteem in girls, while also teaching them critical life skills that will
enable them to succeed as adults. The Girl Scouts of Santiam Council serves
4,266 in Benton, Lincoln, Linn, Marion, Polk and Yamhill counties. To volunteer,
join, or make a donation, please call 800-875-2451.